It’s the strangest thing really and Argov is 100% right on with this principle:
“The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.” -Sherry Argov
So let’s talk about it. Why? Of course…again…Why?
This goes back to the last blog post. If you care too much …you look desperate and Desperation IS NOT SEXY or ATTRACTIVE. It’s freakin creepy.
No one wants a doormat. Doormats are desperate so if you are always catering to his needs and forgetting about yours, what the heck does that say about you?
#1 You don’t respect or love you. – I know girls who will sacrifice their own sanity just for the hot alcoholic cheating boyfriend. It’s like they thrive on neglect and they are in relationships that will NEVER EVER satisfy them for the long term. As a matter of a fact, I bet you a million dollars, the slight satisfaction they might get in bed by having a quick orgasm (if they are even that lucky because they are probably with a dude who is more concerned about getting off than watching her be pleased) is quickly followed by a roller coaster of emotional backlash.
You know what those emotions are for? THEY ARE YOUR WARNING SIGNS!
Listen to your emotions. If you are continually feeling sad…it’s because your too busy feeding his penis and not your soul.
Pamper your soul and you’ll eventually be in a place where LOVE finds you. And let me tell you….SEX with LOVE is great. It’s everything you want and more when you’re sitting there crying and wondering why he isn’t spooning you after a wild night out on the town. You just have SEX. If you want LOVE….get your head out of your stupid desperate ass and start nurturing YOU.
Start planning time in your day to take care of your mind, body and soul and if you have time….then maybe let him come to you. You need to have power over your life. Power comes with taking care of yourself and managing your time.
Being open at his beckon call….that’s bullshit and desperate and you’re a doormat and no one will want you for long….not even you.
It doesn’t matter how big your boobs are or how hot your bootie rocks. You’re a tool for tools. If you want a quality man….start becoming a quality woman and work on your personal development.
Once you gain confidence, you emit it and those who are confident will be attracted to you. You’ll gain a whole new perspective on life and love and men will be wishing they had your number.
You get to select who gets it now instead of just handing it out and hoping desperately that you get someone to touch your desperation line.
Make a choice right now to throw out quality companion lines and ONLY accept those who are going to uplift and enhance your life experience. Throw the sharks back in to play with the desperate fish.