Love is certainly a natural phenomenon but it is wrong to say that it is devoid of scientific explanations. Recent study has suggested that brain plays a vital role when any woman falls in love with any guy. A chemical called dopamine is released from brain which is responsible for the feeling of love. It is also associated with the production of increased testosterone at the time of love. Other chemicals responsible for such feeling include phenylethylamine and norepinephrine. Both are responsible for the creation of the feeling of euphoria.
Building a relationship takes more time than breaking up with someone. We should always focus on compromising and sacrificing for each other as this is the pillar for a long lasting beautiful relationship. Nobody likes to break up with their loved ones and it is important to focus on the positive side instead of thinking about the weak links in your relationship. Mutual respect and a good understanding can help you in overcoming all the misunderstandings and build a powerful relationship. Overcoming hurdles are easier when both the sides are ready to make some compromise and establish the foundation to a good relation.
Men and women must not neglect the seriousness of mutual respect while entering in a long term relationship with each other. This is quite essential so as to have a joyous life in the future and it is because of the mutual respect many couples have experienced success in their career. The essence of mutual respect mainly includes the following mentioned below:
- It is the main foundation of any relationship: No relationship can grow effectively without mutual respect between the couples. Mutual respect acts as a communication bridge between the couples to exchange one other’s thoughts and views without looking down upon each other. Out of this mutual respect you always forgive the small mistakes and wrong concepts of your loved ones.
- Must be established jointly: Mutual respect is not an one sided effort it requires dual effort in establishing such respect for one another so as to avoid misunderstandings between each other. You and your loved one must be true before one another and should not try to deceive one another. If you deceived your partner then the effort of mutual respect is completely wasted.
- It must be repaired immediately: Often you disrespect your loved ones unintentionally then you must immediately take measures so as to remove the cloud of misunderstandings over your relationship. You must bow down before your loved ones and must ask for forgiveness with due assurance that it would never be repeated by you again.
- Giving importance to the loved ones: Your mutual respect for your beloved can be easily gauged on your increasing attention towards her. You will always follow her guidelines as well as recommendations in all circumstances even they are quite contrary to the real life. The moment you ignore her advice the mutual respect between the two will be broken into pieces.
People trust their friends with all their heart and affection. However, despite a level of understanding one of them might betray leaving the other person hurt and disappointed. It is an unfortunate situation to be in and forgiveness may seem really difficult. Betrayal may be experienced in different forms such as broken promises, false hopes, betrayal of confidence, lying, stealing or even abandonment. Experts say that overcoming a betrayal can take time more than just hearing a plain “I am sorry”. Blurting out something hurtful accidently can take gigantic proportions later.
The person hurt should consider the larger side of things. Find out if your friend is truly apologetic or not. You should explore the reasons behind betrayal open mindedly. Repairing the friendship or broken relationship could be time consuming and you should be patient. If your friend is able to demonstrate his understanding of the betrayal being damaging to you, it may be easier for you to start the procedure of forgiveness. Repairing the friendship may be possible in these circumstances. Broken friendship always hurts and having more friends is always helpful. Whether it is about building good friendships through MLM Compensation Plans or providing a helping hand, one should always try to make it up for different aspects of life.
However, agreeing to a lie and returning the stolen money may not always guarantee forgiveness.
You may refuse to trust him again if there is no assurance of the betrayal happening again from your friend’s side. Take some time to understand the reasons responsible for betrayal to make sure it doesn’t take place again. Forgiveness may open the gates of a healthy relationship in future. Even if the other person doesn’t see it as betrayal, forgiveness can give you peace of mind. However, you may not agree to making up with the old friend.
Both the betrayer and betrayed should feel that their side of story has been heard and considered. You and your friend must take an active interest in healing this relationship. Sometimes, one needs to stay away from this relationship when reconciliation isn’t possible. Learn your lessons from the mistakes and move on.
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I’m a lover not a hater. I completely in love with all things about “The Notebook” the movie and I have to tell you I have to hots for Ryan Gosling.
Alas, this blog is not totally about The Notebook rather it will be about love and how men and women should probably be nicer to one another and themselves and probably try (just a little) to understand one another a little better.
I’m married with two beautiful children but I have to tell you…it was NOT and easy road.
I’ve read a lot of relationship books and it’s about time I share my big brain of relationship knowledge with the world.
All my life I’ve kept notebooks so this is a perfect blog for me.
Relationships, The Notebook and me! How exciting!
So the first thing I want to do is go through all of the Principles of the book “Why Men Love Bitches” because too many chicks out there….well..they need to know this.
(By the way…bitch doesn’t have to be a bad word)
So if you are lost and looking for why you are still along and can’t understand why men love bitches…..then this is the blog for you.
I’ll go over the principle presented by Sherry Argov and then give you my take on it. IT doesn’t mean you have to believe me, but you can probably take some of the information as it applies to you and help yourself out of that stupid place your at right now probably sulking because your old college, GORGEOUS SEXY boyfriend is gone (even though he was a dick and cheated on you).
So! Let’s ramp this puppy up and get into the thick of it! Welcome to NOTEBOOK CRAZY!
So…Principle number one that Sherry Argov explains in her book is this: “Anything a person Chases in life runs away”
Why is this important? Why does it matter?
Did you look at the title of this post?
Men (and women for that matter) only like to be chased for a little while. I mean…running gets tiring and honestly sometimes you just want to be alone and not suffocated.
One mistake that women (and men) make sometimes is to chase a wee bit (awe helll…a LOT ) too much.
If a dude is ok with you continually gawking over him and you feel that you are working too hard…YOU ARE! Women overcompensate who they are WAAAAYYY too much to get Ryan Goslings….and Ryan Goslings sometimes do a little too much to get that girl.
STOP IT! STOP IT! STOP IT! Stop sitting around asking “What did I do wrong?” Nothing! Sometimes relationship just aren’t meant to be and if you are chasing around your hot sexy college ex boyfriend, you’re insane.
I know he was hot, but it’s not hot to be desperate and desperation will make you do strange things. Why are you so hung up and desperate anyways?
I can guarantee you it’s not because there is nothing wrong with you. If you are finding that you are spending time in your life to chase down your dream man, you are definitely barking up the wrong tree.
NOTHING is more pathetic than desperation and it’s very unattractive. You can put on a red lace thong and wear nothing on your nipples and chase him all you want. He will stop for a moment (if he’s a man) and pound that shit and then run.
It’s the truth…so get over it.
You are a very easy sex machine, booty call and pound that shit doormat if you will do anything to just touch that man.
IF that’s your thing…then go ahead…chase a way. But know this…at the end of the day when you are all alone and wondering why you don’t have a solid relationship…..it’s because you let your vagina be touched for any reason. Nobody wants a used treat. If you’re willing to open your legs for that guy that easy…how many times have you let it happen before?
If you want a quality relationship, treat your love hole with respect and get your mind set straight first.
How do you do that?
It’s the strangest thing really and Argov is 100% right on with this principle:
“The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.” -Sherry Argov
So let’s talk about it. Why? Of course…again…Why?
This goes back to the last blog post. If you care too much …you look desperate and Desperation IS NOT SEXY or ATTRACTIVE. It’s freakin creepy.
No one wants a doormat. Doormats are desperate so if you are always catering to his needs and forgetting about yours, what the heck does that say about you?
#1 You don’t respect or love you. – I know girls who will sacrifice their own sanity just for the hot alcoholic cheating boyfriend. It’s like they thrive on neglect and they are in relationships that will NEVER EVER satisfy them for the long term. As a matter of a fact, I bet you a million dollars, the slight satisfaction they might get in bed by having a quick orgasm (if they are even that lucky because they are probably with a dude who is more concerned about getting off than watching her be pleased) is quickly followed by a roller coaster of emotional backlash.
You know what those emotions are for? THEY ARE YOUR WARNING SIGNS!
Listen to your emotions. If you are continually feeling sad…it’s because your too busy feeding his penis and not your soul.
Pamper your soul and you’ll eventually be in a place where LOVE finds you. And let me tell you….SEX with LOVE is great. It’s everything you want and more when you’re sitting there crying and wondering why he isn’t spooning you after a wild night out on the town. You just have SEX. If you want LOVE….get your head out of your stupid desperate ass and start nurturing YOU.
Start planning time in your day to take care of your mind, body and soul and if you have time….then maybe let him come to you. You need to have power over your life. Power comes with taking care of yourself and managing your time.
Being open at his beckon call….that’s bullshit and desperate and you’re a doormat and no one will want you for long….not even you.
It doesn’t matter how big your boobs are or how hot your bootie rocks. You’re a tool for tools. If you want a quality man….start becoming a quality woman and work on your personal development.
Once you gain confidence, you emit it and those who are confident will be attracted to you. You’ll gain a whole new perspective on life and love and men will be wishing they had your number.
You get to select who gets it now instead of just handing it out and hoping desperately that you get someone to touch your desperation line.
Make a choice right now to throw out quality companion lines and ONLY accept those who are going to uplift and enhance your life experience. Throw the sharks back in to play with the desperate fish.
A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her.
Sitting around and just “being there” for you man is probably one of the most annoying things I see in relationships.
A REAL woman would never sit twiddling her thumbs and pretending to really love watching sports (I’m not saying women don’t love football…but I know a large majority who would rather be shopping or doing something fun with their friends than yelling at a bunch of stinky men run with a ball).
So what does the strong woman do? She talks! She interrupts. She DEMANDS attention. She poses a mental challenge to her man and he is stimulated by that.
Women who are predictable door mats are not challenging and not kept for long.
You don’t have to be an argumentative person to be mentally challenging….you just have to be yourself. And yourself doesn’t like sitting around while your man plays poker or strums his guitar…then get your ass up and do what you want. You don’t have to justify!
If your man’s feeling are hurt…then he needs to stop being a little bitch and read another book called, “Why Woman Don’t Like Man Bitches” (not written to my knowledge but maybe it should be.
Here’s an example of some serious desperation and a few gazillion notches down in the mental challenge category: A man states he loves blondes. You have brown hair. After hearing he likes blondes, you go and dye your hair blonde and THEN you order his favorite meal and pretend to love it (Hawaiian PIzza but you love Meat Lovers) and the message he gets? HE OWNS YOU. All he has to do is mention what he wants and BAM it’s done.
You’re a robot.
Robots are entertaining initially but new technology comes along and robots are forgotten.
Stop being a robot. Be more challenging. Don’t let him control you. YOU control you and he will always be interested in what the heck you’re going to do next because You are AMAZING, Intriguing and a really good mental challenge.
There is nothing sexier than mental stimulation. Now …get out there and be a stimulator!